James Harmer

Hmmm… that’s a lot of things to try to tackle in one entry isn’t it?!  Especially when I think about the fact that I just finished working, and I have company coming over in minus 10 minutes…  and I was supposed to be showered and ready when they got here.  Oh well, I haven’t written a good entry in over a year, and this just might be a good one… so I’m gonna take a chance.

So… what am I writing about?  Let’s start with singleness…  I think there are two basic seasons in life, singleness and… well, uh… non-singleness?  Maybe I should word it singleness and marriage?  I’ve heard lots of people talk about why you shouldn’t try to “season blend” and how it kills the point of being single.  By that most people mean dating, or what people today call dating.  I’m not actually going to write about that(some of you are very relieved by that.)  What I am going to write about is “singlemindedness”, and that isn’t quite the right word… but I’m making it be the right word, because I can. 

Lots of single people aren’t really single in their minds… they don’t have a significant other in reality, but the opposite sex is always on their mind.  They are always wondering if every male/female they meet is “the one” or trying to figure out and analyze everyone’s actions to find out if the person “likes them.”  People walk away from conversations that seem normal Read more